Literate or Illiterate?

Sometimes after having a "wedding" conversation, I seriously wonder where the heck my "girlie" genes went. Or am I just really wedding illiterate? Remembering certain conversations about the wedding makes me kind of want to crawl into a little ball and not leave my house until I get married...

Friend: So, what kind of flowers do you want?
Me: Not roses, everybody does roses.
F: So what kind do you want?
M: Mm, I like those white ones, with the black middles. Looks like those hawaiian flowers!
F: So you want hibiscus looking flowers?
M: The hawaiian flowers! Not the leafy ones.
F: Hibiscus flowers ARE the hawaiian flowers.
M: But I don't want those ones. Something that looks like that with the black middle!
F: Anemones?
M: Why would I want sea creatures in my bouquet?
F: NO, anemones are those flowers!
M: What did I say about sea creatures?
F: *whips out smartphone and shows pictures of anemone flowers*
M: Oh.

And let's not forget dress shopping..

Sales Lady: So, what do you want to look like on your wedding day?
Mae: Pretty?
SL: Okay... what about elegant? Or classic? Modern?
M: Yeah! All of those!
SL: ...
M: Let's go with elegant?
SL: Okay, so what kind of fit are you looking for?
M: I like corset backs.
SL: No, the fit. What kind of fit? Trumpet? Mermaid?
M: Uh, the fitted top but not too poofy bottom.
SL: So maybe an A-Line, or trumpet or fit and flare?
M: Okay...
SL: So this is a trumpet fit dress.
M: Will I really look like a trumpet?
SL: No, it just means that it's fitted until mid thigh. So it looks like the end part of a trumpet, get it?
M: Won't that just make me fat though?
SL: No, the rouching will make you look really good.
M: Rouching? But I like corset backs.
SL: Okaaaaaaay. Just try it on, you'll see what I mean. *puts dress on*
M: Oh.



Seriously?

My take on the guestlist

Thanks to my jetlag from flying back from Japan, I stayed up most of the night finishing up my first draft of the guest list.

I'm currently 15 people over the "limit"

I'm kind of doing it the reverse of Mae.

- My family was the first to be put on the list. They make up a little over 40 people.

- Then came the the entourage and their signficant others.

- Then the sponsors and their families.

- The rest are friends. No real rules, just if I really want you to be there.

When I was in the Philippines the other week, I think I got some really good advice: "Most of the time if someone is offended that they weren't invited, they weren't that close to you at all. If they really do love and care for you, then they'll understand"

I think/hope there's alot of truth in that.

Epic Guest List No More.

*Disclaimer: This post is not meant to sound conceited, I just so happen to be part of a huge church and them being them.. a lot of the "older" crowd tend to assume they're invited, and a lot of "long lost friends" also assume as well....*


There are going to be rules to help me contain the amount of people I'm inviting.

1. If I haven't talked to you/hung out with you/had a meaningful conversation with you in the past 6 months, you are NOT invited.

2. If I did have conversations/hang out sessions with you (more than once) and did not feel the need to kick you in the face, you ARE invited.

3. If you messaged me out of nowhere just after my engagement just so you can go to NY, you are NOT invited.

4. If I know that I will not be keeping in touch with you after I move, you are NOT invited.

5. If I know when I come back to Vancouver to visit, and you will probably not come out, you are NOT invited.

6. If you have to question your invite status, chances are you are NOT invited.

7. If I did not personally tell you about my engagement, you are probably NOT invited.

8. If you are not part of my family/and I did not tell you specifically, +1's do not apply to you.

9. If you haven't met Ryan yet, chances are slim that you will be invited, unless there were unseen events that prevented you to.

10. If you have to ask to be invited, you are NOT invited.

The reason for these rules is that I'm writing names of my close friends off the top of my head and I'm already at almost 100 people for just my side of the invite list. This does not include the ninangs and ninongs and my very close extended family. Plus, it's not terrible of me to only want people whom I know will continue to support Ryan and I despite the distance. And I know I've been making a huge ruckus about the guest list, but it is a pretty big deal. It's usually the deciding factor on how expensive a wedding can be. *sigh*

Wish us luck.



PS. Special thanks to KA (moh) for being super awesome with me lately. She doesn't know this, but just being around her lets me stress less. Maybe because her issues are faster to resolve with just a push of a button. ;)
PPS. These rules are for those who still asked, even though it's OBVIOUS?

11. If you are in my immediate family, YOU ARE INVITED.
12. If you are part of my bridal party, YOU ARE INVITED.

Sheesh.

One Month

It's been a month (and a day) of our engagement, and we have lots done! Since the wedding will be in September or October of this year, we thought we'd get on top of things and plan everything out. We know the area-ish of where we would live, which cell phone provider we'd use, what kind medical coverage I can get as Ryan's wife, looking into cars sort of, and basically just how we'd get on living together.

What about wedding plans?


Oh yeah.

Epic Guest List is turning into Legendary Guest List

Just when I think that I'm just about ready to finalize my side of the guest list, another name, another face I forgot to add pops into my head and I have to find a way to make it fit. Where the hell did I put that list anyway?

Oh, and question.. can somebody explain to me why these wedding planning books/templates/articles are starting to make me anxious. Only one thing is ticked off... announcing the engagement.



...help.

Epic Guest List is Epic

I think I need to take a cue from Mae and use my notebook to keep a running tab on our guestlist. this is such a headache.

...and the list goes on.. and on.. and on..

I've heard from so many brides-to-be that the deciding factor of most weddings is the guest list. Big wedding vs small wedding. Big stress vs small stress. After just 17 days of engagement bliss, I've learned the true meaning of a headache. Who knew that compiling a list of people would cause so much stress and unwanted feelings inside the pit of my stomach? If there was ever a chance for me to have picked the elopement route, I would have taken that idea and ran without ever looking back. Ever.

Seriously.






To be continued..